You’ve read the love horoscopes. You’ve taken the relationship quizzes. You’ve tried to figure out if you’re more compatible with an extrovert or an introvert. With in-your-face couples like MGK and Megan Fox and Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker pushing the existence of soulmates, you might start to want to find your other half. Andrea Donnelly, celestial mentor and energy healer, previously told Bustle, “I think of a soulmate as someone who compliments us, whereas a twin flame is someone who has a deep level of similarity to us.”
Short of that cosmic connection, however, perhaps the best way to find the one for you is looking at your most compatible Myers-Briggs personality types to see who you’d mesh with best, based on a confusing mix of letters. For those who are newbies to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test, otherwise known as MBTI compatibility, it’s basically a personality assessment that breaks down 16 unique personality types. Once you take the test, you’ll end up with four letters – like INFP (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Prospecting) or ESTJ ( Extraverted, Observant, Thinking, and Judging) – which essentially provide insight into who you are, what your goals are, and how you interact with others.
When it comes to dating, knowing someone’s MBTI might just help you “understand where that person is coming from, and what their preferences are,” Jan Tanaka, a certified MBTI practitioner, tells Bustle. Or, at the very least, it can help “spark a discussion” about introversion and extroversion. While compatibility isn’t everything (some of the best couples are total opposites) it could be a great starting place.
Whether you’re trying to find your twin flame or just have a bit of fun, it’s always enjoyable to compare results – or post them in your dating profile. But keep in mind “the Myers-Briggs is just an instrument to give people more information on someone’s innate preferences,” Poppy and Geoff Spencer, LCPC, Myers-Briggs certified coaches, tell Bustle. “So, while not set in stone, www.besthookupwebsites.org/eurodate-review/ knowing your own and someone else’s preferences is a huge plus when dating, especially when meeting first online.”
If that sounds helpful, look below for your Myers-Briggs type, and see which other three types are your best match.
What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ESFP? ESFJ, ESTP, ISFP
ESFP (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving) folks, aka the Entertainer, should keep an eye out for those who are either ESFJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging), ESTP (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving), or ISFP (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving).
Regarding the ISFP match up, Jessica Moore, a licensed dynamic emotional integration (DEI) specialist tells Bustle, “Sure, they might have disagreements about how often to socialize with friends, but as long as they enjoy spending time together, the introvert/extrovert difference won’t matter much. And in every other way, they’ll be on the same page, and will very easily ‘get’ each other.”
In fact, if someone seems like your opposite, that can actually be a good thing. “The upside to all of the types is that they are not set in stone; they are preferences,” the Spencers say. “We can learn and grow in our relationships by our willingness to further develop our own inferior and less dominant traits.”
What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ESTP? ESTJ, ESFP, INFJ
According to Tanaka, an ESTP (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving) type, aka the Entrepreneur, will be super compatible with both ESTJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) and ESFP (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving), which makes sense due to having so many similarities. But they’ll also match up well with one type that doesn’t seem as likely: INFJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging).